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ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් තොරව

මෙම තවදුරටත් මිනිසෙකු, වැඩි දිග ඔහු එක් සාක්ෂාත් කර ගැනීම සඳහා යනු ඇත තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් තොරව යයි. වෙනත් වචනවලින් කිවහොත්, teased මිනිසෙක් තම කාන්තාවක් කැමති ඕනෑම දෙයක් කරනු ඇත. අනිත් අතට, මිනිසා උච්චතම අවස්ථා වරක්, ඔහු ලිංගික කාරණා ගැන තවදුරටත් කල්පනා කර නැත. ඔහුගේ කාන්තාවක් අවශ්යතා නොසලකා හරිනු ලැබේ. මේ අනුව, තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් හැසිරවිය යුතුයි – සංකේතමය හා වචනාර්ථයෙන්.

තවත් අන්ත අනිත් අයට වඩා, මේ දේ බොහෝ ක්රම තිබෙනවා. මෙන්න සමහර මූලික නියමයන වේ:
1. තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් පිළි නොගැනීම දඬුවම, විපාකයක් ලෙස තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් ඉටු ලෙස භාවිතා කළ යුතුය.
2. ඔහුගේ බිරිඳ විසින් එසේ කිරීමට උපදෙස් මිස, සැමියා කිසිදු තත්ත්වයක් යටතේ කවදාවත් masturbate යුතුය.
3. සැමියා බිරිඳ දැනටමත් එසේ නොමැති නම් නිදහස් කිරීමට අවසර නොකළ යුතු.
4. බිරිඳ සැමියා මත මුඛ ලිංගික ක්රියා නොකළ යුතුයි.
5. ලිංගික තෘප්තිය සඳහා පැමිණෙන විට ස්වාමිපුරුෂයා බිරිඳ සමාන හැඟීමක් වෙත ඉදිරිපත් කළ යුතුය නැහැ. ඇයි සංසර්ගය cunnilingus හා අපට වැටහීමක් මත ලිංගික දම කළ යුතුය.
6. බිරිඳ සංසර්ගය ආශා කළ යුතුද, සැමියා තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් කිරීමට අවසර නොකළ යුතු.
7. ශුක්ර සැමියා (i.e., මුඛ පරිෙභෝජනය) අපකීර්තියක් වන ආකාරයෙන් බැහැර කළ යුතු ය.
8. හැකි සියළුම දී නම් පටිය පහත බිරිඳ සැමියා අල්ලන්න යුතුය.

hastity ඉඟි

hastity ඉඟි
ඔබ ඇත්තටම ඕවට කාලයක් ලබා ගැනීමට යන්නේ සහ ඔබ සාමාන්යයෙන් නොකරන kinky දේවල් කරන්න පුළුවන්
ඔබගේ යතුරු පැවැත්වීම දැරිය විශ්වාස කිරීමට ඔබේ උපරිමය කරන්න
කනගාටුව නිසා ලිංගික නිදහස් කර ගැනීම සඳහා දැඩි අවශ්යතාව අනිවාර්ය කට ආසන්න නියත වන
ඔබගේ නව ස්ථානය මතක තබා ගන්න: නැත භාර
පිළිවෙළකට ඉන්න : නිසා හිසකෙස් ඇති විය හැකි නරකම කාලය ඛේදවාචයක තුවාල ලබා ඇත දේ උපාංගය උනත් ඔබගේ pubes කළාව හෝ රැවුල
අඩු නින්ද පුරුදු : ඔබේ ශරීරය ඔබට කියන්න යන්නේ රාත්රියේ ඔබේ ඩික් මත කලම්ප ද එකතු වේ
ඇය නීති කීකරු ඉගෙන
උදෑසන ලී නොසලකා හැරීමට නොහැකි බව දුක්ඛිත දැඩි කූඩුව සඳහා කරයි, ඉතින් නිකමට, නැඟිටින්න සීතල ෂවර් ගෙන ඔබේ දවස සමග මත ලබා
ඇය වටා ඔබගේ නියාව පාලනය ; මෝඩ වැඩ බලන හෝ ඔබේ කෝපය නිසා රැුකියා ඕනෑම වඩා හොඳ ඔබේ ජීවිතය කිරීමට යන්නේ නැහැ
ඉහළ පදනම මුද්ද දක්වා තබා ගැනීමට කතාව ඉවර නෑ හෝ සහයෝගය යට ඇඳුම් ඇඳීමට
ලෝකයේ ඔබේ ඩික් අන්ලොක් කළ හැකි එකම පුද්ගලයා තරුණියට යොමු කළ

කාන්තාවන්ගේ බලය

භාර ජීවන රටාව තුළ කාන්තාවන්ගේ ජීවිතය ගැන හොඳම දේ නම් එය ජීවිතය ගැන තීරණයක් ධාවනය මාර්ගය බව යි. සරළව, අහඹු එදිනෙදා සිදුවීම් ප්රතිචාර අවස්ථාවක් ඔබේ අනාගත ගෘහ නිර්මාණ ශිල්පියා වීමට ඉඩ වෙනුවට. බලාත්කාරී පිරිමි පතිවත හරහා තම ලිංගික ඉටු භාර ඔබ දමා බලය ලබා දෙයි. හා ආරම්භ සක්රීය තීරණ ගන්නා මට්ටමේ බවට පත් කිරීමට වෙනස් කරන්න. ඔහුට වැදගත් හා සමීප දෙයක් පාලනය ඔබ ඔබේ ම ඉලක්ක, අවශ්යතා, හා ආශාවන් සලකා ක්රියාවලිය ආරම්භ වේ. මෙය ඔබේ ජීවිතයේ ඔබ ආශා හරියටම බවට පත් වෙමින් අවසන් වේ බව හැකි ශ්රේෂ්ඨතම දුරට, සහතික කරයි. ඔවුන් පමණක් සිද්ධීන් ප්රතික්රියා, ඔවුන්ගේ සතුට හා අවසාන ප්රතිඵලය නිතර නිතර කලකිරීම හා කලකිරීම ප්රමුඛ පෙළේ, අහඹු අවස්ථාවක් ඉතිරි ලෙස සාමාන්ය ගැහැනු ළමයින් ජීවිත සමඟ මෙම වෙනස.
ජනතාව ඒක සිද්ධීන් ඔවුන්ගේ පාඨමාලාව ගත කරමු කිරීම වඩාත් පහසු බව සිතන නිසා ක්රියාකාරී තීරණ ගැනීමේ බොහෝ විට මග හැරිය ඇත. මෙය නිසැකව වැරදි වන අතර, එය තීරණ ජීවිතයේ සියලු පැතිකඩ ආවරණය හරහා සක්රීය ලෙස සිදු කරන්නේ නම් අය අභිලාෂයන් සාක්ෂාත් කර ගැනීම සෑම විටම පහසු වේ.
නිසා ඔබ බලහත්කාරී පතිවත පෙළෙන මිනිසා සඳහා ප්රධාන පැවැත්වීමට විට ඔබ බාරගන්නට බැරිනම් බව පාලනය හා සමීප බලය ඉතා සෘජු මට්ටම දක්වා, ඔබ හැම දෙනාටම ඉලක්ක පිළිබඳ පුහුණුව වැඩිදියුණු කිරීමට පටන් ගනියි. හා තව තවත් ඔබ ඔබ විසින් සිදු කරන ඕනෑම වැදගත් සැලැස්ම ඇලුම්, වඩා වඩා හොඳ, ඔබ ඒවා ගැන සියලු දී ඇත.
ඔබ කොහොමද ඔබේ මිනිහා තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් කිරීමට ඉඩ විට, ඔබ ජීවිතය මිනිය නොහැකි තරම් පහසු බවට පත් වනු ඇති බවට සොයා ගැන ක්රියාකාරී තීරණයක් පසු. ඔහුගේ අවධානය යොමු ස්වභාවිකව ඉවතට ඔහුගේ ම ලාභයට හා ඔබේ ම දෙසට ගමන් කරයි. මේ අනුව, පිරිමි තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් පාලනය බලාත්මක වෙනුවට වැඩ ප්රමානය අඩු, සහ ජීවිතයේ සියලු අංශවල ඔබගේ අවශ්යතා හා බලාපොරොත්තු ඉටු කිරීමට ඔබගේ පිරිමි හැසිරීම් හැඩගැස්වීමේ ඉතා ඵලදායි ක්රමය, වැඩ එකතු කර නැත.

අගුලු දමා ඔබේ මිනිසා තබා බොහෝ වාසි?

අගුලු දමා ඔබේ මිනිසා තබා බොහෝ වාසි?
ලිංගික අඩු පීඩනය. ගැහැණු ළමයි ගොඩක් එය සියලු ලිංගික සඳහා පීඩනය එල්ල දැනෙන්නේ නැහැ යම් සහනාධාර බව, සඳහන් කරයි. එය වැනිලා සම්බන්ධතාවය, ඔබ ඔබට අවශ්ය නැහැ පවා නම්, ඉඳහිට ඉටු කිරීම සඳහා වගකීමක් සිතනවා විය හැකියි. එහෙත්, පතිවත බලය හුවමාරු, ඔබ මානසිකත්වයෙන් නොවේ නම්, ඔබ ඔහු ඔබ සමඟ ඔහුගේ මාර්ගය ඇති ඉඩ නොමැති බව සොයා ගැනීමට එන්න. භාර එකම පුද්ගලයා වීම “ඔව් හෝ නැත” කලකිරීමට වරද ගොඩක් ඉවත් කරයි.
ආරක්ෂක. එය ඔබගේ මිනිසා නිර්මලකම අගුලු දමා ඇත විට ආරක්ෂාව පිළිබඳ හැඟීමකින් ඇති බව කාටත් වේ. ඔබ අනාචාරයේ, හෝ ස්වයං වින්දනය ගැන කරදර හෝ, ඔබ ඔහුගේ ලිංගික අවශ්යතා ඉටු නොවන බව ඔහුගේ හැඟීම රැවැටීම සහ අදහස් ප්රකාශ කිරීමේ සිට ද යන්න. එමෙන්ම ඇත්ත, ඔබ වෙන් නමුත් කාලය හෝ දුර නම්, ඔහු තම කුකුළා අගුලු දමා සහිත වඩා යෞවනිය වඩා ආරක්ෂිත හැඟීමක් නැත යන්නයි.
Kinky ඔබ තවමත් කම්මැලි වෙන්න පුළුවන්.
ඉංගී්රසි, සහ ආකර්ශණීය. ඔබ මනුෂ්ය පුරුෂ ගණයට පාලනය අහිමි සමග සටන් විය හැකි හා පවා ආදර ඉවතට අගුලු දමා තිබෙන බව දැනෙනවා අතර, කාන්තාවන් සඳහා අත්දැකීම් සාමාන්යයෙන් සම්පූර්ණයෙන්ම වෙනස් වේ. බොහෝ කාන්තාවන් තම මිනිසා පමණක් ඔවුන්ට ඔවුන්ගේ ලිංගිකත්වය කැප කිරීම සඳහා එය ආදර අභිනය බව, දැනෙන්නේ වාර්තා කරයි. මිනිසුන් තමන්ගේ ශිෂේණය ඍජු ආදරය නිසා වන බැවින්, එය සැබෑ භක්තිය ලකුණක් ලෙස සැලකුණු වෙනවා ht පාලනය අත්හැරීමට කැමති නම්.
වඩා හොඳ ලිංගික. එය හිර සහිත මිනිසාගේ ශිෂේණය ඍජු වඩා හොඳ ලිංගික අවදානමක් පවතින බව, ප්රති-ඉවෙන් පෙනේ, නමුත් එය බොහෝ විට කරන්නේ. පතිවත නාට්යයේ ලිංගික ඉලක්ක සුවිශාල දායකත්වයක් උපකාරී වේ. විවාහක යුවළට බොහෝ විට ලිංගික පිරිමි තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් පමණ අර්ථ බව උගුලට වැටේ. ඔහුගේ තුලින් ලිංගික ආශ්වාදයක් පැහැදිලිව සිදුවන්නට යන්නේ නැත්නම්, ඒ ස්ත්රිය අවශ්යතා ප්රධාන අවධානය බවට පත් වේ. ඇගේ orgasms අවධානය යොමු බවට පත් වේ. බොහෝ කාන්තාවන් කෙසේ හෝ දැනුම ව්යාප්ත හරහා ඉතා පහසුවෙන් චිත්රපටයක් නැරඹූ නොවන බැවින්, ශිෂේණය නෑ ඇත්තටම අවශ්ය ස්ත්රිය මහත් ලිංගික ඇති කිරීම සඳහා ය.
සිනා උපදවන සුළු ආකාරයේ හිඟා කන්න බල කරන විට.
අවධානය. බොහෝ පුරුෂයන් නිර්මලකම අතර යටහත් හැඟීම් වාර්තා කරයි. සාමාන්යයෙන් එම නිදන කාමරය කුස්සියට, හැකි සෑම ආකාරයකින්ම ඔබට සතුටු කරන්න ඒ දේවල් කරන්නේ බවට නැවත යොමු ඔහුගේ ශක්තිය යි. ඔහු බොහෝ විට වැඩි අවධානයක් යොමු ඔහු ඔබට අවශ්ය දේ හඳුනා ගැනීම සහ අවශ්ය පවා පවසා තොරව වැඩ කරන්නේ හැකි වනු ඇත, ඉන් අදහස් වන්නේ ආරම්භ වනු ඇත.
පාලනය. කවුද භාර වීමට අවශ්ය නැත්තේ ඇයි? බොහෝ කාන්තාවන්ට පාලනය පිළිබඳ හැඟීම ඔවුන් ජීවිතේ කවදාහරි සිහින වඩා වැඩි සතුටක් ලබනවා. ඇය වචනාර්ථයෙන් විට සහ මිනිසෙක් තම කුකුළා පාවිච්චි කරයි නම්, භාර විය හැකි බව ඉතා බලගතු විය දැරියක් පෞරුෂත්වය තුල ගැඹුරු දෙයක් වෙනස් වෙනවා.

female in charge lifestyle

tumblr_nlixsv87CN1u8yzfyo1_540One of the best things about living a female in charge lifestyle is that it is a decision driven way of life. Rather than simply reacting to the random everyday events, allowing chance to be the architect of your future, putting her in charge of his sexual fulfillment through enforced male chastity gives her power. And starts change toward a proactive decision maker and planner.
The fact that she is decision making for her male about something that is so important and intimate to him, causes her to consider her own goals, needs, and desires. This assures, to the greatest extent possible that her life ends up becoming exactly what she desires. Contrast this with the lives of average girls as they only react to events, and their satisfaction and ultimate outcome is left to random chance, leading to frequent frustration and disappointment.

Active decision making is often avoided because people think that it is easier to just let events take their course. This is undoubtedly incorrect, and it is always easier to achieve ones aspirations if decisions are made proactively across all facets of life.

Due to the very direct level of control and intimate power that is thrust upon her, enforced chastity of the male is the best, and I might add, the easiest way for a female to improve the practice of having her goals and aspirations met on both a long term and a short term basis.

Once she makes an active decision about how often and n what ways her male will be allowed to orgasm, and if she takes a few moments each day to enforce her decision, she will find that her life will become immeasurably easier as his focus naturally moves away from his own gratification and towards hers. Thus, enforcing control over the male orgasm is not added work, rather a very effective method of reducing the female’s workload, and molding the males behavior to better match her desires.

Females should think: How do I feel about the male orgasm itself? Do I enjoy watching it? Is it disgusting to me? Offensive to me? Do I just not care one way or the other? The answer will help to serve as a guide to proper decision making.

Using the above answer as a guide, and whatever desire she has for her own sexual use of her males cock, she can then easily decide how often he should be permitted orgasm. Weekly, monthly, quarterly, only on special occasions, yearly? The possibilities are indeed endless. Other frequencies used fairly often by female supremacists include: only on days she intends to permit intercourse so that the male can perform properly, or indeed, as many females have decided, on occasions as supervised teasing or masturbation as an infrequent but powerful reward.

Done properly, there is no risk to the male if he leads his life under severe orgasm control including living out the rest of his life without another orgasm. Prostrate massage could be an alternative to keeping a male undergoing long term orgasm denial healthy. Resources about prostate massage how’s and whys abound on the internet.

Strict and ongoing control of the male orgasm is so important to the female supremacist because of the profound effects it has on male behavior. These positive effects are the result of his instincts for reproduction.

All males who are not under strict orgasm control are completely sexually satisfied at all times. This is because all males use masturbation every time relief of their biological drive is needed. To believe anything different about male masturbation is to be dishonest with oneself.

A sexually satisfied male is, due to his instincts, a male who is no longer motivated to completely please the female in his life. His instincts cause this lack of interest in pleasing her because his drive to reproduce has been temporarily met. Without the instinctual drive for reproduction pushing him forward, the male cannot be properly focused on her needs, wants, and desires. Rather the male will always place his own needs and wants first.

This is not learned behavior, and this is not somehow the males fault. Neither is it something which he can change. It is simply how the male gender functions as a result of the instincts it possesses.

Contrast this with a male who lives under strictly enforced orgasm denial. The denied male, when not in a sexually satisfied state will have his entire focus on fulfilling the needs, wants, and desires of the female in his life. All of the males otherwise wasted energy will be directly focused on her pleasure, not only her sexual satisfaction, but in all areas of her personal, family and professional fulfillment and life.

Again, this is not something that the male has learned, or that he can change, it is simply male instinctual response.

His instincts force his energies towards satisfaction of his need to reproduce, this naturally translates into behaviors in which he does everything possible to earn the affection of the female who controls his ability to orgasm.

When the female muzzles her male with an effective chastity device, and exercises an effective release schedule, she will have a male uniquely devoted to her happiness. When she does not do these things, his instincts force his behavior to fall far short of the ideal.

An interesting side benefit of enforced male chastity is that the male who is sexually unsatisfied will have more energy than he would if he were sexually satisfied. This is a biological response in the male that can be quite profound, and extremely positive.

In most males this extra energy is manifested as creative energy, in others as physical energy. Either way, it can be of great benefit to the female supremacist as she uses it for her increased pleasure.

Behavior modification is another tremendous benefit brought about by the males lack of sexual satisfaction. As females we need to admit to ourselves that we all have a desire to change our male. We want him to more often exhibit behaviors which please us, and less frequently exhibit behaviors that are displeasing to us.

Females are taught by society that it is not right to want to change the male, and that even if it were ethical, it can’t be done anyway. The conclusion we are to draw is that if we try to change our male our efforts will fail and we will be deeply disappointed.

This is a lie, a lie of course foisted upon females by our prevailing patriarchal society. A lie which should not be allowed to stand as we females create our future gynarchy.

Male behavior will change and improve dramatically when the female supremacist removes her males sexual satisfaction. His instincts will drive him to exhibiting pleasing behavior towards her, and will make it much more difficult for him to exhibit behaviors which she does not approve of. As females, control of the male orgasm is our best opportunity to improve our males behavior patterns and mold him more closely into the “man of our dreams.”

Through enforced chastity we can change the male with relative ease, and we should do so.

When discussing enforced male orgasm control it must be remembered that there is a significant time delay as the male moves from a state of sexual satisfaction to a state of sexual dissatisfaction. It is not instantaneous or even quick, and a control only exercised for a few hours or a few days will not yield the desired effects.

A good rule of thumb is that it takes about a week in the average male. If he is allowed orgasm on Sunday for example, and is denied orgasm until the next Sunday, he will be getting his orgasm at about the same time as he was finally becoming sexually unsatisfied and his instincts were beginning to align his focus on the females needs and wants.

Thus a male who is granted one orgasm per week will never be able to give the female his proper focus. She will not receive the benefits of enforced chastity because she is not allowing enough time for him to become sexually unsatisfied.

A helpful way for females to consider this is by thinking about it as a vacation. Every time the male achieves orgasm his focus will move away from her for about one week. During this time he will be “on vacation” as he will not be serving the female to the best of his ability.

With that in mind, when thinking about how often her male should be allowed orgasm, the female should consider how many weeks per year she wants his focus to be away from her, and how many weeks of “vacation” he should be granted.

One male orgasm per week translates to 52 weeks of “vacation” per year.

One male orgasm every other week translates to 26 weeks of “vacation” per year.

One male orgasm per month translates to 12 weeks of “vacation” per year.

One male orgasm per quarter translates to 4 weeks of “vacation” per year.

One male orgasm every six months translates to 2 weeks of “vacation” per year.

One male orgasm per year translates to 1 week of “vacation” per year.

Completely doing away with the male orgasm through permanent enforced chastity will result in the male always being focused on the fulfillment of the her wants, needs, and desires. But of course, the goal is obedience and appropriate behavior, not all loss of hope.

As females in power we should ask ourselves, how many weeks of vacation does the average employee receive per year? How many weeks per year should we be willing to tolerate our males focus being on his desires, rather than our own? When we consider these questions, the best answers for ourselves, and our relationships will come.

Once it is decided through an active and thoughtful decision making process how often the male will be permitted orgasm, the male should simply be informed of the decision, and expected to obey without complaint.

The female must of course hold true to her decision and not allow temporary weakness or pity to soften her resolve. If she does not enforce her decision, all of her efforts will be for naught.

As mentioned, the male should not be allowed to complain, or even to request an orgasm. Complaints and whining are poor behavior that should be punished. A request for orgasm is nothing more than whining for attention. Knowing that, the female must use care in her choice of punishment.

In some instances, it is appropriate to use physical corporal punishment, such as an intentional spanking or whipping. Application of some sort of chemical to his balls or penis can also be a non-dangerous but memorably painful reminder. This is particularly effective when he is tricked; in the words tie him down, tell him he is going to get an orgasm, and instead he has to suffer. Whatever discretion or behavior needs to be altered will not be repeated for a long while.

A time out option is also sometimes appropriate. If the male complains, whines, or begs to annoyance, place him somewhere out of the way for a few hours:  In a closet with the door closed, in a spare room tied to the bed overnight or the garage or basement.  Of course keep in mind the issue of safety to his wrists and ankles and body. Almost assuredly he will need to be gagged while locked away.

One other punishment option is to make him endure something disgusting such as handcuffing him in the shower and pissing onto his face.

Whatever she chooses, it should make her feel more powerful. It should make her feel like she is having fun or getting revenge at his expense. The female in charge should never feel that denying her male the act of orgasm for long periods of time is overly cruel. In fact, rather than cruelty, long term orgasm denial is a gift she provides her male. This is because for the male in a relationship based upon her power, being granted an orgasm is not expected but an occasional reward and act of sympathetic mercy.

His instincts drive him to an extremely powerful desire for orgasm, but deep down, in the core of his being, he does not truly desire sexual release.

From a practical standpoint, after orgasm it is much harder for the male to serve the female, and he finds much less fulfillment and joy in his service to her. Intellectually, he knows this, which is why more intelligent and successful men seek out a female who is willing to be dominant and controlling.

From a less practical standpoint, when the male achieves orgasm it is accompanied by a release of sexual tension. As being in a state of sexual tension is so blissful, the male orgasm is always to one extent or another a disappointment.

As female supremacists working to improve our lives, and constantly expecting more control and power, we need to use our intellect to decide how to best regulate the orgasm in our males. Males can’t do this themselves because their baser instincts cause them to abandon their own intellect in favor of following their “idiot stick.” Strict control of the male orgasm will greatly improve the life of the female who is willing to exercise that control, it will also however serve to improve her males life as she uses her intellect to overrule his “idiot stick”…

Contract for Male Chastity and Female Domination

Attitude

  1. He will exercise regularly, keep himself maliciously manscaped, always be well groomed and be impeccably dressed.
  2. He will aggressively show my friends his endearing respect and worship of his Queen.
  3. He will never be disrespectful to me, my friends or other women.
  4. He will address me as Mistress or Queen. He is only allowed to call me darling or sweetheart when it is not possible to use my declared title.
  5. He will put my needs before his needs.
  6. He will not swear or raise his voice to me or use foul language.
  7. He will listen and not turn away or interrupt me when I am speaking to him.
  8. He will be openly honest and truthful to me.
  9. He will not disregard any request I have made.
  10. He will not try to change or amend plans that I have made. He can offer suggestions and advice but when I have told him that my decision is made, it is final.

Chores

He will be proactive in carrying out his core chores around the house, cooking, cleaning  bathrooms, vacuuming, washing dishes, washing clothes and ironing, taking out  the trash. These are his domestic duties and he will do them to a high standard and without needing to be reminded. He will make sure he does his chores before he has personal time.

Sexual

  1. He will not beg, pout, or whine for sexual attention.
  2. He will wear his cuff at all times unless given permission to remove.
  3. He will keep himself man-scaped including face, chest, and all private parts.
  4. He will be 100% monogamous to me.
  5. He will be open, without question to ALL of my sexual needs.
  6. When told that he is going to be taking my strap-on he will ensure that he is absolutely clean. I will give him sufficient notice.
  7. He cannot cum without permission.
  8. He must ALWAYS swallow his cum.
  9. Sexually he will do ANYTHING sexual I ask unless it is dangerous, hurtful, or severely unlawful.
  10. He will be respectful and accommodating with my playmates.

Review and Punishment

His performance in following these rules will be reviewed regularly. General performance below an expected standard or specific incidents of rudeness or disobedience will result in punishment. As Queen, I  will determine the punishment, be that the cane, humiliation, the strap, extension to time in chastity, or any other punishment of my choosing.
He will know the rules by heart and be able to recite any rule by number if asked.tumblr_o1fm53yjLs1u7nwm0o1_1280

Male Chastity – Rewards for the Keyholder

Reduced pressure for sex – A lot of key-holders (KH) state that it’s a relief to not feel pressured for sex all the time.  In their normal, vanilla marriage, they may have felt obligated to perform occasionally, even when they didn’t want to.  Once the KH becomes comfortable with the Power Exchange of chastity play, she comes to discover that if she’s not in the mood, she doesn’t have to.  Being the sole person in charge of deciding “yes or no” tonight removes a lot of frustration or guilt she may have felt previously.

Security – Some KH’s report that they feel a sense of security when their man is locked in the chastity device.  Some even feel anxious or irritable when their man is not wearing the chastity device.  Perhaps it’s some mild anxiety about infidelity, but more likely, it’s an anxiety that the man is masturbating because she may not be meeting his sexual needs.   Once he’s locked up, the woman knows that she is the sole provider of his sexual experience, and that it will happen on her terms.

Romance & Attraction – Many men struggle with (or enjoy) feeling emasculated by wearing a chastity device for their woman.  However, the experience for women seems to be totally different.  Many women report feeling that it’s a romantic gesture for their man to devote their sexuality to them exclusively.  Since men are so in love with their own penis, it’s perceived as a sign of true devotion if ht is willing to give up control in this way.

Better Sex – It seems counter-intuitive that a having a man’s penis locked up would lead to better sex, but it often does.  Chastity play helps redefine the goals of sex.  Couples often fall into the trap that sex is defined around the male orgasm.  If his orgasm is taken out of the mix, the needs of the woman become the primary concern.  Her orgasms become the focus of attention.  Since many women don’t experience orgasms easily via penetration anyway, the penis isn’t really necessary for the woman to have great sex.

Attention – Many men report submissive feelings while in chastity.  Quite often, they redirect their sexual energies into doing things to please their KH.   Even if they’re not in a D/s relationship, this attention can be quite pleasing to the woman.

Control – Many women grow to enjoy the sense of control, and the power exchange of chastity play.  It’s not uncommon for chastity play to become a bridge to more power exchange.  Some couples start with chastity, and branch into pain play, pegging, cross-dressing or other expressions of Dominance and submission.   Chastity may become a “gateway kink” leading the couple to lots of other avenues.

Good signs of a relationship

  • There’s so many “LOOK OUT FOR THESE MEAN PEOPLE” type posts when it comes to relationships, so here’s some signs of a HEALTHY relationship 🙂

    1) THEY GENUINELY ASK ABOUT YOU

    They wanna know how your day was. They ask how you slept. They ask if you’re feeling ok. If you have any kind of illness and/or need for medication, they ask if you took it. If there’s a mental illness going on, they ask you how is it that day and if there’s anything they can do to make you feel better/at ease. This might seem small, but it all adds up. Notice I didn’t say “ask you to the point of being uncomfortable”, that’s just not right.

    2) THEY ARE PROTECTIVE OF YOU

    Jealousy is fine, to a point. If it’s gotten to the point of “I’M GOING TO CUT A BITCH THAT SO MUCH LOOKS AT YOU”….please check them into therapy. There’s a difference between wanting to keep someone safe/respected and wanting to stab someone who so much looks at your significant other.If someone insults you, they’re willing to jump to your side and defend your honor.

    3) THEY HELP MOTIVATE YOU!

    They ask you about your career/job plans/path. If you’re in college, they ask you how your classes went. They ask you about your strengths/weaknesses/etc. They give you constructive criticism.

    4) WHEN FIGHTS DO HAPPEN, YOU MAKE IT UP

    Absolutely no relationships is 100% free of disagreements and/or arguments. If it is, chances are someone is lying to themselves (and/or bottling up negative feelings). The important thing is that when disagreements do pop up, everything is constructive. Try to avoid statements like “YOU are the problem for this, YOU are the reason everything is messed up”, etc. The only time you really need to you “YOU” type statements is very specific instances (as in: I don’t appreciate coming home when you have had dinner and you leave your dishes in the sink, I would very much appreciate it if you could help me out and clean up the dishes before I get home). Some therapists recommend taking the pressure off by saying things like “we can improve in this area, this is where we have our strengths”, things like that. If you don’t know HOW to properly communicate this, couple’s therapy is always an option to learn how to better communicate with each other. There’s self help books out there as well, but be careful, because some are super-christian (i.e. say things like “If you pray to God,  and trust in God, you will find happiness). These border-line pseudo-science sounding books can be super dangerous in the wrong hands and lead to things getting WORSE, and NOT better. *Note, I’m not saying this to be anti-Christian, I’m saying this in relationship to thinking your problem will just magically get better without you changing your own behavior in some which/way).

    After disagreements, it’s good to have a “cool down” time, where you talk about everything. You talk about why you were upset, you walk about how you can improve things. Hell, you can even come up with a plan/schedule to help yourself (and your partner).

    5) YOU TALK ABOUT THE SERIOUS STUFF

    It’s fun to just cuddle and watch Netflix, but if you’re super serious about this person, you gotta talk about the serious stuff to. If you’re in a not-vanilla (aka BDSM) relationships, this isn’t just going over contracts and/or checklists. I’m talking about asking your partner on their stance on marriage, having children, what religion to discuss around the kid (and/or each other), etc. If you don’t plan on having kids, discuss religion with them (if someone goes to some kind of religious temple such as a church or gathering, how often and will you be willing to accompany them, things like that). If it’s a boy-girl relationship, discuss birth control options (even if your celibate, the girl might take birth control for PMS symptoms management and/or to help stabilize their hormones). If an “oops” pregnancy did happen (let’s be real, even the most safe couples can have an “oops” pregnancy, nothing is 100% effective besides being abstinent), how would you handle it? (abortion, foster, adoption, etc).

    You can also discuss finances, transportation, etc. and how all of that will be handled. Will you have a joint account or separate accounts? I know it sounds overwhelming, but it’s important to consider, especially around tax time (at least in the States, don’t know if countries outside of USA does tax returns).

    6) YOU FIND THEM SMILING…A LOT!

    It’s OK to admire your significant other (this took me awhile to get used to, myself). Smiles, hugs, cuddles, hand holding, all of this works chemically towards a happier and overall stronger relationship. If you’re into sex, that can also help strengthen the bond, due to the chemicals that are released in your brain during sex. Sex is NOT a requirement for a relationship to “work out”, it should ONLY be an optional add-on.

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need to feel safe

Before I can begin to open my submissive nature to You I need to feel safe and have reason to trust You. To let down my walls and give You control of my will may take time and testing before I feel safe enough to permit either of us to go beyond the initial stages of our relationship. Even after I’ve given myself to You fully, I need to be reminded I am safe with You. I may like to feel the thrill and excitement of fear and the unknown, but I need to be sure no matter how You stimulate those emotions during an intense scene or situation, I will remain safe in Your care.

I need to know You accept me for all I am.

I will be many things to You as our relationship grows and I need to know You accept me as a person during each transition along the way. I need to know You accept me as a friend, lover, companion, and Your submissive but also accept me as parent, child, employee, community member or other roles I fill in my obligations to family or society.

I need to have clearly defined limits.

I need to know exactly what You expect of me and know that You also understand my limits. In some ways I am like a child that needs a fence around my play area so I know how far I can go and feel secure inside those limits. I need You to reinforce those fences by correcting me when I try to climb them without Your approval.

I need You to be consistent.

I need to know You mean what You say and that today’s rules will apply to tomorrow’s behavior. Nothing confuses me more than giving me mixed signals by allowing me to break rules that You’ve given me. From time to time I may test You to see if You are capable of accepting control of my life by consistently bringing me back to the path You’ve chosen for me. It’s not done to try Your patience but is my way of finding reassurance You are paying attention to my progress. Very often it’s not done consciously and I promise I’ll not use it as a method for provoking Your negative responses.

I need to expand my limits.

I need to grow and to be challenged. Left on my own, I’ll become bored or stagnate within the boundaries I accepted in the beginning. I need to be pushed, but never shoved, to go beyond the places I’ve been. I may drag my feet and pout at times, or sit down and refuse to move because I’m unsure and need Your guidance in overcoming my obstacles. I depend on You for strength and encouragement to get beyond them.

I need You to teach me.

I need to learn and it is You who are my teacher. My mind is hungry for new things and learning helps me to become all that I can be. This may require You to continue to learn new things in order to keep me challenged. Together we can grow to the fullness of the gifts we have and deepen the diversity we share.

I need goals.

Part of my make-up as a submissive makes me very goal-oriented. I need them to measure my progress and need You to provide them for me. Take time to explain those goals in ways I can comprehend Your plans concerning my growth as Your submissive. Without Your direction I quickly become lost so I’ll look to You frequently to provide a purpose and aim as I continue in my development as a submissive.

I need to be corrected.

I need You to correct me when I make mistakes. Without Your correction I will develop bad habits that can be very difficult to break and do great damage to our relationship and to us as individuals. Without Your correction, I may never know I’ve made a mistake. Allowing me to continue unchecked will only cause me to fail both of us in the end. I admire firmness in Your correction and feel secure in knowing that You will never be afraid to take steps needed in keeping me focused on the goals You’ve set for me.

I need You to be my role-model.

I look up to You and try to follow in Your footsteps. If You fail to live up to a standard, I will follow You into failure, often without You noticing until it is too late. I learn quickly by the examples You provide for me and often base my reactions and behaviors on my observations of You in similar situations. I will blindly pattern myself in Your image so be aware that my eyes will always be on You as face Your own challenges and daily activities.

I need Your approval and reassurance.

I need to know when You approve of me or what I’ve done and to know I belong to You even if I fall short of my goals. I sometimes confuse approval with disapproval when You do not provide positive reinforcement when You are pleased by my actions. I will constantly be seeking Your approval when I’m unsure of myself and may need to rely deeply on Your support and reassurance when I’m confused about a situation or apprehensive about a new challenge.

I need to be able to express myself.

I have a need to express both good and bad things to You but it may be difficult for me to put the negative things into words. I fear Your rejection and hate disappointing You, so I may need a little space and time to voice all the things I need to say. You can help me by reassuring me that my feelings are valid, even if they aren’t something You find pleasure in hearing. There may be times when I’m upset or angry with You but without freedom to express those feelings there can be only festering resentment or misunderstanding. Guide me in ways that I can learn to speak my heart without breaking it or Yours.

I need to learn from my mistakes.

I need to experience things that may be painful in order to learn successfully. I know Your protective nature will struggle with allowing me to be hurt but I need to learn the consequences of what I’ve done and to experience the feelings that go along with making mistakes. I will need Your comfort once I’ve faced my failure but will sometimes feel unworthy of asking or unable to voice my disappointment in failing. Allow me to sort out my feelings before wiping away my tears.

I need forgiveness when I fail You.

Nothing hurts me more than to know I’ve failed or displeased You and I need to be forgiven once I’ve made amends. It is very hard for me to forgive myself for a wrong-doing and I may need Your help in getting beyond the feelings of remorse I am carrying. I may even need to be punished, if my wrong-doing was traumatic enough, in order to feel closure and accept forgiveness. I depend on You to make that determination for me and need Your help in making an atonement that is acceptable to You.

I need to feel I contribute.

I have a deep-set need to give and must have outlets for this need. My basic nature is to give of myself and You will be the primary recipient of my gifts. Allow me to contribute to our relationship and our life together. To do less will leave me unfulfilled and unneeded, a fate worse than death for me. Provide me with ways to contribute things to others, also. I may need to give of myself to those I hold dear but You will always receive the best I have to offer.

I need to enjoy successes.

Without experiencing and enjoying my successes I may give up my fight to be all You desire for me. Allow me the pleasure of savoring the taste of victory when I overcome an obstacle or if You find pride in my attempts. All of my successes belong to You and I need to share their rewards with You. I don’t expect You to spoil me with grand displays for little victories, but when I’ve reached beyond the limits of my past attempts, please don’t deny me the sweet feelings of knowing I’ve achieved a goal You’ve set.

I need to share with You.

Sharing with You is a compelling need and one of the cornerstones of my submissive nature. This includes the emotional and spiritual aspects of my being as well as the physical body I inhabit. It may be difficult for me to give You access to the deeper levels of my emotions and feelings but those are the things I need to share the most. I’ll depend on You to direct me in ways I can achieve total openness with You. I also need to share in the things You are. Trust me enough to share in Your fears, failures and struggles. I’ll never see You as weak or incapable because You have shown confidence in me by giving part of Yourself in trust.

I need to feel loved, respected, and protected in Your ownership.

No matter how well I’ve done or how miserably I’ve failed, I need to know I’m still loved and protected by You. Nothing will prevent me from trying new things like fear of losing Your respect and love. By the reverse, nothing will encourage me to expand my limits and grow to be all I am capable of being more than knowing You will be there to protect me from harm and will love me even if I fall short of the target. I need to be loved and to love You in return. I can’t survive without it.